My selection today is found in Proverbs 31:12.
"She will do him (her husband) good and not evil all the days of her life"
"She will do him (her husband) good and not evil all the days of her life"
As I mentioned in my anniversary post, I began praying for my future husband as a teenager. As I got older, I became very passionate about purity and waiting on God's perfect timing for my mate. My freshman year in college, I roomed across the hall from a girl that was constantly in the Word. She had so much knowledge and loved the Lord incredibly. One night we were talking about our future and how to prepare for the day we would become wives. She went over Proverbs 31:12, which I'd read a million times before, except this time she made a point I'd never thought about. It was a "Duh!" moment for me.
She said, "Notice how the verse says ALL the days of her life. It doesn't say 'All the days of her married life'--just life. She made the connection that, even as single women, we could obey this verse on a deeper level than just thinking, "Okay, I'm a married woman now, so I need to do good to my husband for the rest of my life." She said that we could do good to our husbands as single women. *Even though neither of us knew who our husbands would be at the time* How could we do that!? And how, for you ladies that are still single, can you follow this verse now?
Here are a few ways:
1. Pray for him regularly. Pray that God would protect him and his family and that he would guard his heart and be patient for you. Pray that he'd be a great man of God that would lead your family in the ways of the Lord.
2. Be patient!! =) Don't just give your heart away to any guy that looks your way. Ask God to give you the strength (and humility) to wait on HIS timing rather than jumping prematurely in a relationship just for the sake of being in one. It can be lonely during the waiting process. But lean on God--He'll see you through and you'll be so glad you stuck it out.
3. Keep your heart and mind pure. "Chick Flicks" can be somewhat dangerous! Don't get sucked into a fantasy world regarding relationships. Instead, ask God to give you the proper expectations and to help you keep your mind on Him, instead of allowing it to wander...
4. Prepare. Learn as many skills as possible...or fine tune them. Whether it be cooking, sewing, cleaning, whatever--get used to taking care of a man/home!
5. Save! Save your money! I regret that I pretty much wasted all the money I made before I got married. I should've been setting some aside for our future!
6. See #1!! I can't stress how important it is to pray for your future spouse! That person is worth it!! You are worth it!
Those may be "givens", but I just thought I'd share them. Sorry this selection turned out to be so long! I realize most of the people on here, that I know of anyway, are already married. But I just felt led to post about this. I have a heart for young girls, or any single gal, and their preparation and purity before marriage.
Thanks for allowing me to share my thoughts!
GREAT post!
ReplyDeleteJust wanted to let you know when I signed up on Mr. Linky my name was on there from an old post. So I just put my new one on there under Leah (for today). :)
Wonderful post!! I too started praying for my husband when I was a teen....like you with Bob, Ryan was my first boyfriend. Now as a mom, I am already praying for Cayden's future wife. I know what is FAR from now, but my mom began praying for my spouse (and my sisters) when we were born...I think this is great! You made some awesome points in this post that I wish more girls would read and take to heart!
ReplyDeleteThis is a TERRIFIC post. I love it. I too began to pray for my spouse early. I love to hear your heart on this issue. You and I have SO much in common! Love it! Great post for all to read!
ReplyDeleteThis is inspirational. Since I started dating my husband as a teenager, I did my best to pray for that. I’m still growing and learning how to forever be praying. Good post!
ReplyDeleteI loved number 2. That is just so true. I have been married 24 years and i can attest to the fact that real marriage is NOT like they depict on tv and other media. We can't compare, we just have accept and love them for who they are in the Lord.
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