I need your help, mommies!
CONFESSION: I'm still feeling quite overwhelmedd about my new role as mom. I love my son sooo much, but at times I catch myself wishing it was still just me and Bob...I feel so guilty.
I really didn't want to post this b/c I know how horrible it must sound, but I really need all the encouragement and prayers that I can get right now.
How did you all make it through the first weeks of being a mom?
I know all babies are different, but any tips would be appreciated. More importantly though, I'd love your prayers.
I'm so thankful to have a wonderful husband, parents, siblings, and in-laws. God has given me a great support group...and now I hope you'll be a part of it, too!
I'm looking forward to hearing how you ladies handled the crazy first weeks with your babies. I hope you all have a great weekend =)
Kari,
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your openness and honesty. I will definitely be remembering you in my prayers. Your body has gone through so much and it will just take a while to adjust. I think what you're feeling is pretty normal. I remember after my first was born I was in the hospital that Sunday and was watching tv and the program showed kids suffering in some foreign country and had "Jesus Loves Me" playing and I was sitting there bawling. I definitely had my moments, like when my mom left after staying with us for a week. After my daughter was born 19 mo. later, I was so tired and felt very overwhelmed.
Keep us informed. I'll be thinking of you and praying for you.
Love,
Valerie
*I just said a prayer for you* I am sorry that you feel that way. I have no advice, since I have not experienced motherhood. But, just from reading several things about pregnancy I think that what you are feeling is normal, like Valerie said.
ReplyDeleteI prayed that you would be at peace and for the Lord to post angels you and your family. I hope that you will keep us updated.
Dear Kari,
ReplyDeleteOh yes, feeling overwhelmed is very normal! All the hormonal changes and lack of sleep do add up. I will be praying for you and your family during this time of transition that the Lord will give you extra strength. It does get better, REALLY! Hugs! Denise
Kari, I am glad you are reaching out for Prayer and support about the baby blues you are experiencing. Unfortunatly our little helpless bundles of joy don't come with instruction manuals and can be very demanding and overwhelming at times. Try to get rest when you can, but just as important get fresh air and sunshine that will boost your vitamin D level that will help with your overall feeling of wellness and strength. Be encouraged to know that this difficult stage doesn't last to long. Take Heart as the Scripture tells us that JOY COMES IN THE MORNING. I will be in prayer in the days to come for you all.
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Aunt Mary
I am stopping in by way of Carol's blog. She is one proud Grandma! I admire you for being open with your feelings, keeping them bottled up will do more harm than good. I would say take it one day at a time it is all quite new to you. Do not count on a routine for a while, it will change everyday! So try not to stress over that. You are lucky he was born near spring, I always found a nice stroller ride or just sitting outside was good for me and the baby! I know you have a good support team, take advantage of that , everyone likes to feel needed.
ReplyDeleteKari,
ReplyDeleteI will definitely keep you in my prayers. I'm not a mom yet so I can't help with that advice but I can understand your desire to have alone time with your husband. It's ok that you're feeling this way! Just take it one day at a time and I know God will lead you. You are and will continue to be a wonderful mother!
In Him,
Brittany
A new reader here....
ReplyDeleteIt's been a long time, since I had my little girl, 38 years in fact !
I do remember feeling overwhelmed, with all the new resposiblilty, and trying to keep everything going, business as usual style.
When your body has a chance to rest, you will gain the strength and the joy of your new son, will more than overcome your doubts, fears, and reservations.
You and your husband are blessed, and I wish you and your new son, a healthy and happy life together.
Blessings,
Josephine
It will all be ok. Just take the little darling to Carol, or better have her come for a night or two so you can get some sleep.
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I popped by from Carol's blog. She is tickled pink over your bundle of blue!
ReplyDeleteI know you are too. It is tough at first but you will get the hang of it and your body will adjust.
Mine nursed every 45 minutes around the clock at first and I thought I would not survive...but God knew what He was doing in trusting me with the precious children He entrusted us with.
He knew what He was doing in placing Ethan in your loving arms. You are just what that precious little guy needs and he will bring you more joy than you ever knew was possible. I am guessing that you already know that and that is part of the issue. Your emotions have likely been higher than you have ever known and of course what goes up must come down.
Soon you will feel more like your old self. Just let others help you when you can and enjoy the attention. The intense interest and offers of help will dwindle down to mostly Grandparents soon enough...so enjoy it now...lol.
Many blessings on your family.
I'll be thinking of you and praying for you.
Becky K.
Hi Kari! Congratulations on your precious baby Ethan. Just came over from Carol's blog.
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to let you know that really you are in the midst of the hardest time right now. New moms are exhausted and hormonal but it will pass! Sleep whenever you can. Take all help that is offered. Don't worry about the house or anything that you can let slide.
Just in case you face it, new mom's get depressed too sometimes. Don't feel guilty...it's just those tricky hormones. Plus you are experiencing the biggest and best change of a lifetime!
Take care of yourself and bless you!
Kari - what you are feeling is normal. I had postpartum depression with both of mine....especially the second one since she had colic and screamed all the time! :) It will pass and you will make it through. Make sure you get plenty of rest when baby is resting and accept help when you need it. Praying for you!
ReplyDeleteI met Ethan over at his proud Grandmother's blog, and I've so enjoyed watching him change before our eyes. He is so precious! Adjusting to a new baby while your body is adjusting to so many changes, and while you are functioning on much less sleep and worrying about whether you are doing all the right things is so difficult. I am glad you have such a strong faith in God, and I'm glad you have great family and friend support. You were on my prayer list for the last month of your pregnancy, and Ethan and his family remain on my prayer list. You are doing the right thing by relying on your faith and by reaching out to family and friends. The best advice I got when I brought my babies home was "when they sleep, mom rests". laurie
ReplyDeleteKari,
ReplyDeleteRead all about your darling on Carol's blog....he is beautiful.
Kari, I am not a mother but I do know about being overwhelmed. Ask God for help....boldly come before the throne and EXPECT His help. It will come!
I am sending my prayers up for you. God bless you.
Barb
Before I was pregnant with our first one, I really wanted children (I am a firm believer Against birth control, but I still did not get pregnant till after we were married 8 months!)! I had days were I was soo sad. It was like my whoe being longed to nourish and love a baby! I believe this is what women are supposed to feel and long for. After all God made us to be our husbands helpmate, then He told the couple to reproduce! God wants us to raise godly children for Him and He makes our bodies as women to need and want to nourish these little ones that He blesses us with! We live in a world were children are thought of as burdens, in the way and dragging us down! This is so not true, but what they indoctronate us with and now it is misleading all the youg people nowadays. We give up self and make a sacrifice, yes, but oh the rewards are so great!
ReplyDeleteI found it very helpful reading "A Full Quiver" By Rick and Jane Hess
http://www.quiverfull.com/resources.php
and Nancy Campbells magazine, "Above Rubies" She also has a great book called "Be Fruitfull and Multiply". It is helpful to read these!
We have two children, so far, and we live in a very small home, where the one bedroom is a loft, but I still find time I can spend with my husband. I really wish we had a bigger house, but the good Lord knows what is best and I am learning patience! You and your husband are very blessed with this new baby! Do not worry, you have a big responsiblity now, but God is there for you and always will be! Count your blessings everyday!
God bless you in your high calling as a wife and mother!
Hugs!
Love,
Hannah
Hi Kari:
ReplyDeleteFirst off, congratulations on the birth of Ethan. Everything you are going through is normal feelings. I can remember when I had my twins, sitting on the couch crying because I just wanted to be in bed sleeping. My advice is to take a nap whenever you can. Let the housework go if you have to. Take a nap when Ethan does. And let Grandma and Grandpa watch him while you and Bob go out to dinner. Just an hour away makes you feel refreshed. You will get through this...and if you are still feeling overwhelmed, talk it over with your doctor. Do not feel guilty!!!!
Ginger
Dear Kari, You and your sweet family are in my thoughts and prayers today. I know how physically demanding a new born is. I know how your love is so deep for them but you are so exhausted. I had my precious little Mary at the age of 46. She was a very special gift from the Lord to my husband and I, two people who thought they would never be blessed with a child. We were so happy to have her. She was healthy with no complications but we were so very tired and it was a wonderful and difficult time all at once. I will be praying for you sweetheart! Love, Elena
ReplyDeleteKari - I don't have any children of my own (just a 10 yr old stepson) but my sister-in-law just gave birth to her 2nd child last week and was in tears about being overwhelmed. I think w/ prayers and the support of your family - it gets easier! :)
ReplyDeleteHi Kari,
ReplyDeleteI just wanted you to know that you continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.
Love ya,
Valerie
Bless your heart! You know, I've never had children, but I certainly had a Mother and know that Mother's are the MOST important people in this world! God will help you in your one role, just keep going to Him for your guidance!:-)
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